​ ​ ​ November 2026

What I Wish I’d Known as a Carer

Hi Reader

How are you?

It’s been a few months since my last newsletter, as I’ve been busy editing my second book. It’s the story of caring for Neal and how the experience impacted almost every area of my life.

Caring is complex. It can affect us mentally, emotionally and physically in ways we could never have imagined.

Looking back, there are so many things I wish I’d known. So I thought I’d share a few of the challenges I faced, what I learnt and some tips that can help you.

1. Surround yourself with the right people

Not everyone will be there for you. Some friends and family distanced themselves, leaving me feeling isolated as I cared for Neal through his terminal illness.

Initially, I felt hurt and angry, but I soon realised I needed to focus on those who genuinely cared, and found support elsewhere.

I reached out to local and national charities, and council services. I also made wonderful new friends, particularly fellow carers who understood what I was going through. Some are still close friends today.

– Who makes you feel supported and understood?

– Could you reach out to a local carers’ organisation or spend more time with people who lift you up?
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2. Look at the bigger picture of health

Neal had dedicated doctors providing pioneering treatments, but I felt his overall wellbeing needed attention.

I started exploring nutrition, specialist advice on supplements and ways to bring more enjoyment into his life, including music therapy.

I learnt that while we can’t always change an illness, there may be ways to improve someone’s daily wellbeing and quality of life.

– What small changes could improve your loved one’s wellbeing?

– Could you enjoy more time together in nature, listen to music or do something you both love?

– If you’re considering supplements or complementary therapies, always check with your doctors first.
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3. Don’t forget yourself

I became so consumed with looking after Neal that my own health and happiness took a back seat. Eventually, the physical and emotional strain caught up with me and I was dogged with ill health for months.

I learnt that looking after myself wasn’t selfish. It was essential.

Even small moments of ‘me time’ can help us recharge, whether it’s going for a walk, connecting with a friend or simply enjoying a little peace and quiet.

– What could you do today to bring a little more happiness into your life?

– Where could you ask for help to create some breathing space?

Remember, your wellbeing matters just as much as the person you’re caring for.

I hope sharing my experiences helps you navigate your own caring journey. We can’t always change our circumstances, but we can find ways to feel more supported and bring a little more joy into our lives.

And remember, you’re amazing in all that you do.

If you would like more insight and ways to make your caring role easier, please do check out ‘Who Cares?’ packed full of ideas to boost your wellbeing.

Sending love,
Sara x
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